Do not read this article unless you are of a very open-type mind or............curious.....lol....we all are curious !!
There is a concept that is becoming more popular in the privacy of people's homes around the world. You may think this is extremely weird, but people have been considering polyamorous relations with other people, so that they do not cheat or ruin their marriages. Instead of lying about an interest in other people, they simply offer and suggest it to their mate. Polyamory will always be an awkward and controversial subject, like alot of things these days............................
Otherwise known as an "open relationship", this type of relation is not to be confused with swinging. I have met numerous people, who when they decided to swing with multiple partners and to do orgies, the relation broke off within 3 years. If a person is in a "marriage of convenience" or does not give a rip, perhaps swinging can work. However, a "amorous relation" is often where both pick a person they can bond with. As any relation comes with its own complexities, lots of communication is crucial before adding another person to the mix. The bond between the originating couple has to be very very strong in order to do this. Sometimes a couple will pick a friend they have known for years. Usually the odds would seem to be in favor of what the originating couple wants. It appears that not as often is it that a couple chooses another man for the same woman. The most common sex variations can be woman-woman, man with two woman, or just the other woman with the same man. People may like to fantasize about this relation and keep it at that. It seems that with swinging or amorous relations there is often someone in the mix who may always feel left out. In turn many are at a loss to explain why they are feeling that way. Also, if you are in long-term polyamory, and you are the "other woman", you are not in his health benefits, etc., for instance. ...................................................................
If it is the woman in the relation who wants another man, most men won't allow this. To the woman, it might not seem fair, expecially if the husband never attempts to bring her to climax. Because men are often threatened by other men having their wives, it appears that they might only allow another man if they have cuckold (google that word to see what it means) fantasies, and/or preferably if they think the guy is a nice guy that they and their lady already know............................................................................When a woman picks another woman, there is so many reasons for her wanting the relationship. One, ofcourse being the knowledge of the female body, sexuality and emotions. And as in polygamy, another woman can help with the house and kids or to nurture the other if she is sick. Another woman can confide better with the woman, so guys, while we know you love the idea of two women, often the man will feel left out of the bond between the woman. .............................
When people do this, they try to hide this "polyamorous" relation from their kids, their family and friends. Searches on the internet for such a mate are sometimes as strange, even alot stranger than any other attempt to meet strangers online, whereas the couple has to resort to think of someone they both already know and love. This ofcourse poses the test of both the relationship between the couple and the friendship with their friend. But if the other person is already of an "open" mind, they can take it or leave it as a compliment. For me, it does leave a strange taste, because even though I did not tell the couple I thought it was strange, I have had had couples ask me to "do them" over 5 times in my life. I am too possessive, so I do not understand sharing, but I do value other peoples ability to share. .........................................................................Again, keep in mind there is a thing to consider: Your partner and friend might end up being hurt or it might just be a 6 month fling before everyone tires of this. Then again it might be long-term. I do not have enough statistics on any longterm polyamory households. I am sure they are out there, but because these people are so secretive explains why there is a lack of data. I am not endorsing this. But you will hear more about it, just as you heard stuff years and years ago about homosexuality. Can you picture years later when you are a great-grandma and your great-granddaughter has a girlfriend living with her and her husband that you really wonder about? You might think "ewwww", you might think "cool", you might think "whatever", or you might think "I don't want to know"................ Often, I am an oxymoron and will think of all these things before coming up with the conclusion that "I don't want to know, it's their business"........................................................................................
I personally believe in total monagomy.
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