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Perhaps you did anal sex only once and never again. Maybe you like it and it gives you screaming orgasms. For alot of women it is hated, or only tolerated. As in knowing and asking many women, I have found that most do not like it, few are crazy about it and still quite a few have never tried it. Only once in a while have I ever met a woman that really, really likes it. Alot of men will ask for this and there is some tricks to make it pleasurable.
An obvious must-have would be to have some great lubricant. I prefer Astroglide because it is less sticky than alot of the other lubricants.
The worst thing for the anal experience is when someone is unexperienced and with an unexperienced partner, where they are subject to the pain and the nasties.
So that you do not end up saying your butt is "exit only", you must get yourself a hot water bottle enema. An enema is key to having clean anal sex without it from becoming a terrible experience. Ironically, it appears more men are cool about the "crap" than women. Also, once men get over any possible taboos, they seem to love their butts played with more than the women do, go figure. In fact, they seem to go crazy over sex with toys.
Again, for a woman, anal sex can be tremendously embarassing if she has anal without the enema first. It will probably take 2 warm hot water bottles to cleanse your anus thoroughly. Relax, then once you are clean, just rest a few minutes and continue to relax. Lots of lubricant and using a small toy or butt-plug is a good thing to start with (SEE February '09 Toy Of The Month-the blue toys below). Practice deep breathing to open your threshold of pain which will then open the rectal spincture. It is only then that you can receive your joy. Remember, "once you get past any pain, open up for pleasure". Having a considerate, gentle mate is the only obvious way to enjoy anal if you are ever going to enjoy it. If for some reason you do not, you will not be the only one, not to worry.
